Monday, May 02, 2005

The Power of Rejection

I had another post I was working on, but the mail brought in a rejection. I ceased to be real interested in anything to do with writing, big surprise :(

It is hardly my first rejection, but it is my first rejection based on a full. However, as painful as it is, it isn't my most painful. I'm not sure if that is good or bad. Have I become jaded enough that I don't feel the same passion? Shouldn't I be throwing myself around blubbering and looking for chocolate?

It wasn't a bad rejection, the agent said she liked it, liked the characters and thought there was lots of chemistry. She just didn't think it was strong enough for the market. My first reaction was to toss out my pc, my laptop, all of my writing books, etc. etc. and give up writing. But it only lasted a second. The feeling used to last a whole day when I first started. As the rejections mount up, the less connected I feel. My writing has become something seperate from myself. Maybe it is a defense mechanism.

I'm sure we all feel some level of utter despair when that SASE comes back with a simple letter. Have your feelings changed over the years with the various rejections?

9 comments:

Olga said...

I'm so sorry about your R, Rene. Major hugs. Maybe, pain indeed tends to cease with time, and usually I try to find something positive. The fact that the agent was interested enough to request a full and then gave very positive feedback. I hope your next news will be only positive!

Melissa Marsh said...

I think it's a good thing that we let the rejections "roll off" so to speak. If we blubbered everytime we got a rejection, it would be too emotionally draining. You've just developed the "thick skin" that we all need in this business.

Rene said...

I found working out helped somewhat as well. I feel better about it today.

Melissa Marsh said...

I need to do that more...the whole working out thing. I usually work out by lifting the spoon of Ben and Jerry's Lowfat Frozen Yogurt to my mouth.

Michelle said...

Hang in there, Rene. I think you can become immune to rejections for the little things, like queries and proposals. But for fulls, I don't think so. It's like you've almost won the race, you can see the ribbon ahead, and someone trips you. Just take some time to wallow and then write something completely for yourself.

kacey said...

Hugs. R's suck. But I do find I bounce back quicker from them these days. I still hold to my 24 hour wallow and eat chocolate rule. Makes you feel much better. *g

Rene said...

Thank you, ladies. I felt okay today although I did look in the mailbox with some trepidation :)

Didn't Nora have 8 mss rejected before she got published? Of course for her, that's about 6 weeks of work.

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Kelly Parra said...

Hi Rene,

Sorry to hear about your rejection. I got one in February, and it was a low blow, too. I cleaned the entire house until I was just filled with fatigue! = )

I'm glad you're feeling a little better about it. I wish the best on the next submission.