Thursday, May 19, 2005

Santa Barbara

I need a vacation. The last time I had time away from my kids was in September '02 when hubby had to go to Bermuda for business and I got to go. This wasn't exactly a relaxing journey, I was 7 1/2 months pregnant and I had a sinus infection. I spent a lot of time in the hotel room watching t.v.

I haven't spent 24 hours away from my baby yet. This isn't by choice. My other kids were used to abandonment. I went to Hawaii for ten days and left my 5 year old son and his 18 month old sister behind. But this third baby is different. She nursed until she was 22 months. Never took a bottle. Would only breastfeed for the first 6 mos. of life. She also wouldn't let anyone hold her but me. It's like having a freakin' virus that won't go away.

So I grabbed my husband by the throat and told him if he valued his life, he would find time to take a three day weekend and get me out of the insane asylum my home has become. So he left it to me to pick a place. I selected Santa Barbara. This is one of the two places I would actually move to, the other being San Diego (well, La Jolla) from where I live now.

Grabbing the laptop, I start hunting for hotels and I've got quite the list going. Hubby does the same. I'm looking at the Four Seaons, he's looking at Motel 6. I'm looking at seafood restaurants, he's looking at steak. I'm looking for the shopping areas and the winerys, he's looking for dayhikes and botanical gardens.

Maybe I should just leave him home.


Amy said...

LOL Your youngest sounds a lot like mine. NO bottles. I was thrilled when he took a sippy cup one week before his first birthday.

A vacation sans kids sounds heavenly. Reno will have to be mine this year. Have fun planning! :)

Rene said...

I wanted to go to Reno and had planned to, but hubby was making noises about going with me. Yeah, right, I want to go to a romance writers conference and hang around with my hubby at night. I DON'T THINK SO.....

My hubby is glued to me. He's not jealous or anything, he really, truly adores me and wants to spend his free time with me and our kids. Real sweet, sure, but damn, I'm an only child and I didn't get married until I was 27, so I'm used to being on my own.

Kelly (Lynn) Parra said...

I love Santa Barbara. I haven't been there in years. There's something so artsy and cool about the place. *g* Have fun!

Anonymous said...

Baby jail! That's what nursing is. I nursed my daughter for 9 1/2 months and she would dawdle until I was ready to pull my hair out. Finally I weaned her. Freedom!

Have fun in Santa Barbara!! :)

Anonymous said...

Oooh, Santa Barbara sounds wonderful!!! I've never been there, but I've always wanted to go.

I want be rich and famous and have a place at Montecito. *g*

Rene said...

Gasp, Michelle--you don't find nursing to a beautiful bonding experience between mother and child? Bahahaha... I nursed all three of mine, mainly because of food allergies and the price of formula floored me. My first two were 13 mos. & 14 mos. This baby would nurse now if I let her.

Kelly, I used live in Santa Cruz, so I've been amongst artsy and cool. I want to be around wealthy artsy and cool, ergo Santa Barbara.

Tori, I'd love to be rich and have one of those vanity vinyards in the Santa Ynez valley where I can name my wines after my beloved romance novel heroines.

Anonymous said...

LOL, having 3 kids myself I can sympathize.

Melissa Amateis said...

I am glad you finally told hubby to get you a vacation. I was worried there for awhile that you might explode from sheer frustration!